The modern world is not only fast in pace with technology exploding into new realms, but it is also a lot less trusting as it may have been some time ago. People in general are more concerned about making money rather than making love. When I say making love, I don’t mean in the bedroom sense but rather the spiritual trusting sense of sharing a full life with one partner. Real love is about trust and devotion. A quick glance at a stunning sexy human being is still quite in order but the infidelity of modern man and woman has slipped into a place of ‘what the eye doesn’t see, the heart won’t grieve for’. I see & know of people in committed relationships, out of wedlock, who knowingly seek the attention and pleasures of other partners. I have never fathomed how these people manage to live with the guilt. Maybe they have no remorse in what is, in my opinion, the most deceitful of acts. To break your partners trust is, unforgivable. The fact that a legal marriage is not in place is irrelevant. I’ve heard them say, “..but I’m not married, it’s okay,”
Dating is dating, there is a subtle distance between the two people, but when two people unite in sharing their lives fully, in dwelling, in intimacy and in bearing a soul with all of its secrets the equation changes. Legal marriage is no more of a marriage than partners sharing their all. They are the same. Less people are convinced of the biblical foundations but are more inclined towards the scientific evidence. So, marriage is a total togetherness, with or without the legal paraphernalia.
The male & female in the modern world have similar roles. Gone are the times of home keeper & bread winner. Many women are earning more than their male counterparts & it is not uncommon to meet the house husband pushing a pram through the supermarkets. My opinion is that these scenarios are quite acceptable. If women ran the world, the lack of testosterone might in fact make world politics far more rational and certainly a lot less violent.
I truly believe that the downfall of marriage partnerships stems from the lack of trust. When you suspect, or doubt your partner’s integrity, you will actually fuel and even create the unthinkable. It’s a difficult thing to do, to trust someone 100% and honestly say that it doesn’t even enter your mind that they may be interested in another. If you can, both of you, then you have the receipe for one of the finest dishes that the world has to offer. True Love.